hey
So its Friday night and Im all alone on my computer, cant help it but to feel lonely, in fact so lonely that I googeled loneliness trying to seek out others in the same position and found this forum. Great.
I dont how Ive ended up like this, I think I have fairly good people skills but all I have is tons of acquaintances and no real friends. I have one but she lives far away from me now and is always busy with school, I barely get to talk to her even on the phone, I feel like we are drifting apart. Why cant I just ask some of the people I make small talk with at school if they want to something together outside the school?? Just cant, I guess Im afraid that they will think I have no other friends if Im asking them.
Anyways, I thought Id post this here, maybe it will make me feel a little less lonely.
are u from maine too??!! ...i'm from portland...way to represent!! anyway welcome to the forum...from what u wrote it definately looks like u'll fit in and i totally know what it feels like with the whole friend thing. i have a problem exactly like that with a friend of mine. hopefully seeing that other people are in a similar situation as u will help u a little like it did me. keep posting...trust me, it helps.
I have the same exact problems as you. I have decent people skills too and I have lots of acquaintances. I used to have a good friend, but she became a commuter student so now I'm all alone. "I guess Im afraid that they will think I have no other friends if Im asking them. "- that's how i feel too. I don't eat at the dining hall of my school b/c I'm afraid people will know I have no friends! There is no way to make new friends if you don't already have friends without seeming desperate. How old are you? I was just wondering if you were in high school or college. I always thought it would be easier to meet people in college, but it just means you have more aquaintances.
Re: hey
Is seems that google has brought most of us here! I seem to be in a slightly different situation to you lot. I dont have lots of acquantances i just have 3 people i spend my time with. everybody around has a preconception about me and just leaves me to myself so it is particularly hard for me to initiate anything with anyone because they dont tend to talk to me anyway! I have zero people skills so in all fairness they have every reason not to talk to me, plus i always make people feel awkward. You already have something over me. Unfortunately i dont have all the answers for you gguys anymore than i do for myself but all i can say is life is about taking risks, if you ask a couple of poeple if they want to do something outside the work place i dont think they will immediately think, 'ohmigod, like he has no other friends..' people can have more than one group of friends and plus its a comkpliment to ask someone to hang out. if they say no so what you didnt have a great enough relationship to be damaged anyway and you wont have lost anything. if they say yes then thats great and maybe something will become of it....
...i'm from portland...way to represent!! anyway welcome to the forum...from what u wrote it definately looks like u'll fit in and i totally know what it feels like with the whole friend thing. i have a problem exactly like that with a friend of mine. hopefully seeing that other people are in a similar situation as u will help u a little like it did me. keep posting...trust me, it helps.
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