Sometimes I wonder with girls if they think a guy who approaches them is pathetic. That is one problem I have, I guess because of a girl last year.. in hindsight I've realised that she was a social stuff-up (I may not have any friends but I do know how to be courteous and how to treat people haha) and I shouldn't be so hard on myself, afterall I made a effort and took a risk, but she made me feel so pathetic. I didn't ever ask or out or suggest at anything more than having light conversation but because I was alone and trying to make a friend she saw me as some pathetic loner and made no effort to hide her thoughts.

I asked a girl out about a month ago after having just spoken to her...usually I'd wait until I knew them a bit more. I need to just cut to the chase more with girls even though it doesn't feel right. Basically by cutting to the chase I feel like I'm eliminated the friendship phase and moving straight forward to this all-or-nothing dating phase. I kind of like having a friendship phase first, I'd prefer it to occur, but I guess I just have to get over it.

At the moment I'm not going to uni, I'll be going later on. So I don't have the opportunities to meet anybody. I am just going to take the chances though and just ask girls if I think there is a chance. I don't recall any girls flirting with me at uni though and so it's not like there are chances to take. One girl did, and I took that chance, and it didn't work. I just don't know why more girls don't flirt with me, I guess I'm just not desirable enough.
The only girls who flirt or get nervous are the ones at stores, but I just think they're paid to be like that anyway. It really messes with my confidence too.

I'm just rambling now.
I guess it all just comes down to the fact that no girls are interested in me and I don't have the opportunities to take the chances.
I meet very few girls at university because of the gender-one-sidedness of my course.
I just wish I could give it a try as you say - I don't ever have the opportunity. Lol, after I write such things I realise that it just doesn't matter, I have all of the future to look forward to. I guess I just need to be hopeful, no matter how negative I get optimistic hope tends to slap me in the face, I just don't feel that way though, I just feel like I should feel that way.

Well with that guy, you don't have to tell him you are "friendless" if it never comes up And when it does there are plenty of ways to hide the fact ever so slightly while still being honest. But remember I don't think he will mind how many friends you have or anything like that, so don't sweat this stuff, it's not likely to be something to come up.
I have asked people this before about whether or not I need to tell a girl I have no friends if it comes up or whether or not it matters. The response I've received is that if you are in a relationship with a guy, your friends rarely come into the picture anyway. If and when they have to it really doesn't matter because it shouldn't matter to the other person what your social life is like.

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Whatever. I guess it's better to have no friends than one friend you hate?

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Yeah it seems better. I tend to just stick with whoever I can for however long I can just to have someone to talk to and hang out with too.
That sucks that this person has pissed you off, I'm so sorry that their actions have to mess you around, it is terrible when this sort of thing happens.
It also sucks to think that someone else in the world has to be alone. Some people will think it's not so bad because they are able to deal with it when their cell phone battery dies or something (like that is real loneliness haha) but when you have to live loneliness it is very hard. So I just wish things could be better for you.

This year I'm going to try and make a greater effort to fight the misery and blows to my confidence and try and meet some new people. I really hope you can do the same too, and it's good to see that you have this guy in your sights
But just keep at it ok, hopefully you can inspire me into trying to fight this

At the moment I'm kind of ok with the current situation and hopeful that things can change in the future. Yesterday on the other hand I was the complete opposite.
I'm still doing nothing all day, trying to keep myself entertained, and keep my mind of not having people to spend time with.