Siblings
Does your autist child have siblings? If so, how do the react tot the autistic child? Do you have more than once child with autism? Do you plan on having more children?
Me (Cause I don't want to appear nosey asking personal ?'s so I'll answer them too.)
Two kids, an 11 year old (not autistic) and a 6 year old (PDD-NOS). The older is very protective of his brother most of the time, especially in public or if he feels like we are being to hard on him..."You know mom, he might not understand because of you know, his problem". He also get's very frustrated and sometimes says he wishes he didn't have to deal with it. He sometimes says he thinks we love Corbin more.
When we 1st got together we had planned on have a child at some point as my SO doesn't have children of his own but have since decided that having more would not be the best choice for our family. It saddens me sometimes but I know it is the right choice.
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In dealing with these changes
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When we had our second, Anna, we didn't know Josh was autistic. We had tried for three years before having Josh and the doc said it wouldn't happen again. He was 7 months old when I got pregnant. By the time I got pregnant with Rachel we knew Josh was autistic and knew Anna was looking that way. We hadn't planned on another baby just then, as I had my hands full. But sometimes God knows better than you do. I got a lot of negative about that pregnancy, people thought I was crazy to chance it again. But I love my children and don't look at any of them as a burden. Rachel has been one of the best things to happen to this family. Josh has just bloomed in her presence. He's learned empathy, feelings, emotions and gentleness through this tiny baby. I love Rachel just for being Rachel, but it warms my heart to see the bond they share.
Re: Siblings
My son isn't diagnosed yet he is 6yrs. I have a 9yr daughter, and another 2yr son. We knew there was something not quite right about some of his behaviours but thought it might of had more to do with anxiety at first because we were going through a rough year as a family. My daughter isn't having a difficult time because in her eyes he won't listen to her when she asks him to stop his intrusivness or repetitive noises, comments, gestures, etc. So it annoys her. I'm only now trying to help her realize that it may not be his fault and we all have to learn to be more patient as a family in general to everyone and treat everyone with respect. My 2yr old admires him and copies his "odd" repetitive behaviours (clapping, rubbing hands, clearing throat, pacing/running back and forth seeming to be engrossed in his mind or playing some game) but if I have asked him to stop he will but continue it a few minutes later. It's all sort of new for us because all this time we've just been considering his behaviours just "Jake" or behavioural or anxiety related. Patience is the key, understanding, compassion and respect for eachother as a human being. Anyway, the motto I live by is "Lord, for my sake, teach me to take, one day at a time"
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