Welcome Joy!

whoa, I totally agree with what you say about how people treat lonely people.

Now this is scary lol because I had the same thing happen to me twice in the last year. They just cut me off, no calls, no emails, didn't fulfill their obligations. Things were fine right before then all of a sudden I didn't exist to them. Know how ya feel

In one case the other person was to blame and later contacted me but I didn't really want to know them then obviously. The other person, I don't know what happened, I was too low in the social standings for them I think and they had more popular friends. The story of my life hehe.

I don't think you should be thinking that there is something you are doing or anything like that. Twice is just conincidence, and people are sometimes careless and insensitive.
There is nothing wrong with you - so don't think that. Maybe the people were busy as you say. Maybe they just decided to have other friends. Maybe they were just rude and didn't hold any regard for how they made other people feel. The reasons don't matter, they have to live with themselves.
I think it's so unfair that other people's actions make you question your own worth. You don't have to question it, there is no doubt about your worth and value to other people it is perfect.

Also you aren't being too sensitive. People did things that weren't normal, they would hurt because you aren't supposed to experience such things but unfortunately you have.

Friends do come and go an in our lives, some don't stop by for long, others you think you would never lose. It does happen and so don't feel like it is something about you causing it.

I have a bad relationship with my family and so I don't feel less alone being around them. It can be difficult when we seem to be alone and we feel helpless. But for whatever it's worth there are people here who'll listen and talk.

I think what you can do a few things to try and make things a little bit better.
You could distract yourself with some new hobbie or interest... this is a kind of band-aid solution though and doesn't address the underlying issue, the loneliness.
A better option to me would be to join some sort of organised activity, like a gym or sports club, book club, bird watching group, dancing, hiking, pottery - whatever
interests you. This way you will be doing something interesting, meeting new people and be less alone.
Maybe you could try and reach out to your family who live far away? Maybe an email every now and again would be suitable. A webcam or mic might be fun too.


Well if you ever feel like you have something to add to the discussion then feel free to do so because like you say "misery loves company" and we're alone and need company hehe. I'm sure you are full of wisdom and just because you are lonely doesn't mean you can't give good advice - maybe having a little experience with it is even a good thing (who would ever imagine being lonely to be a good thing!... that's just overly positive of me isn't it!).

I know how it is about not being able to talk to people about loneliness, it is a terrible paradox isn't it. But that's what this site is about and so we are breaking the laws of unfairness, I mean society